17 February 2016

All the single ladies

In the 19th century the dream image of a young women was to be a mother and a wife. Still to this day, the 21st century I believe this is still a big deal. Now obviously we have progressed massively over the years and I'm not dissing that, what I am saying is that becoming a mother and a wife are considered life milestones. We celebrate being able to walk down the aisle or being able to get knocked up, yet there the definition of average. 

What I'm here to bring to your attention is if a women is a respectful fun young women but is single, can she still live a happy and a fulfilling life? My answer is double yes and why not? 

Why should us women feel bad or be put down for being single, when our lives can be satisfying without a man by oursides? When people hear that ones single they hear that there alone. Is this right?  People who are single have no voice to say why they are or why they want to be single? When someone says I don't want a boyfriend or I'm not looking to date you get the shocked face and asked why? I'm sick and tired of been at family occasions and hearing people ask relatives have they fell in love yet? Life isn't about falling for some random guy anymore, and women need to realise that we are so much more than that. 

Why is it that when a women wants to concentrate on herself, on her career, on her path in life that it's like well "would you not like to meet someone?" Why would you want to meet someone when it could only hold you back from your dreams, why is it more important for a women to meet the man of her "dreams" and get married then be successful in her career and be able to say she worked hard for her job instead of I worked hard to get married? 

Being single can be the best experience of your life because you can find yourself, who you really are and who you want to be. Why not embrace the solitude and uncover everything about yourself. It's about exploring what u want to do with your life, pursue your passions. I believe nobody can be happy if your not happy in what you do whether you have a man by your side or not. Being single makes you independent and gain confidence. It lets you be selfish for the right reasons. Finally it's about loving yourself! 

"It takes a strong person to remain single in a world that is accustomed to settling with anything just to say that they have something." 

xo
CJ